Comment on Rehoming a pet: How to cope with the grief by Emma.
Hi all, I’ve just had to rehome my dog of two years a few days ago and I’m heartbroken, she wasn’t getting along with my partners dog who lived with my partner before we met, we decided to get ourselves a dog we could raise together and as she grew she became too much for the smaller dog in the house, we tried training and behaviourists and we thought we were getting somewhere recently, but then she hurt the other dog quite badly and we knew that we couldn’t risk her being hurt again, so we took her to a rescue, I feel so awful, like I failed my baby, she’s been fostered and is due to find her new home and the foster family is sending updates occasionally, and I know she is doing okay which offers respite, but the agony of her not being around and not being able to see her ever again is just horrible, I worry that she feels the same pain that I do, that she wants me back just as much as I want her back, but there’s nothing I can do, I feel like I’m the worst person, even though I know there were things that we couldn’t give her and that it was safer for her to find a new home, I just can’t stop this constant pain and upset, and people around me seem to just say we have to get on with it and think of our memories as positive and not something to cry about, but it’s only been three days, I can’t be okay yet, and I feel bad that I’m feeling upset because I feel I’m bringing everyone else down. Will things get better? Will I be able to look at photos of her and think of her without crying one day? Should I feel bad for being upset? I’m so sorry to anyone else who is dealing with this pain, I hope that things get better for you all.
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Rehoming a pet: How to cope with the grief
Hi all , it’s been 3 months since I rehomed my 2 year old dog, she was and always will be my baby, I chose her specifically from her litter and I feel like I’ve let her down, that I gave up on her, she had issues with resource guarding and I tried everything I could, she was being trained and there were some improvements, but she was getting more and more aggressive with my other dog and 2 cats and I couldn’t leave them alone together anymore, I am heartbroken by this decision and I still wake up thinking of her, I still have regrets and get upset and worry about her, I cry a lot, so many things remind me of her, I know she is happy in her new home, they love her very much and she deserves all the love the world has to offer, she is now an only dog and it’s the best choice for her, I’ve had updates from the new owners, through a foster family at the rescue, but these updates have stopped now and I feel like I don’t have the right to ask for more as she’s not mine anymore, and that thought makes everything so much harder, I know the choice was the right one, but I think I will always feel guilty for it and always just want her back, and I also can’t handle the thought of having another dog at the moment, I miss her so much and I want her and nobody else, and that’s not to say I don’t love animals because they are all truly amazing, but she is the only one I want at this moment, I hope this will get easier, there have been easier days recently, but the hard days are still very hard, I appreciate hearing everyone’s thoughts and feelings and my heart goes out to you all during this difficult time.