Comment on Rehoming a pet: How to cope with the grief by Hana.

I am in a very similar situation now… In February a black cat starting demanding entry to my loft room, turned out she was pregnant and gave birth to two kittens in my room. Found out she belonged to irresponsible stupid neighbour downstairs who let her roam outside without getting her spayed, he kept insisting on keeping her but not wanting the kittens or taking the mother to the vet or anything. Her stray backyard tom started coming over to my place as well, the whole family. In June she got pregnant again and I was really freaking out! Pressed the neighbour and he renounced the mother cat telling me I just stress him out with her, so to keep her. So I could finally get her sorted, but as I am currently on a low income, I had to register with jobcentre to be eligible for PDSA, managed to get her spayed-abortion a week later, no1 done. The stray father who kept sneaking into my room through opened window and spraying urine everywhere, that was also not easy. As he did not like to be handled and sometimes snapped. With the help of two rescuers I found on facebook we got him neutered as well few weeks ago. I bought him an outdoor shelter for 80 pounds and made it really cosy for him, but he does not care about it apart from spraying urine on it, and continued to demand entry to my house. But I cannot have 4 cats here as I live in a flatshare and my flatmates are not supportive at all, cannot even find a cat sitter for couple of weeks so i can go abroad and have a break in a forest, today a rescuer messaged me she found the father cat a spot in a shelter in a city far from London and it is now or never… And I have been crying since she told me, the tom got really attached to me, and obviously I am attached to all of them, but it is too much for one person to handle without any support… This Sophie´s choice in my head all day, should I send the kittens away (two kittens, 3 months now) and keep the parents, or should I send the father away and keep mom with kittens (same problem with too many cats) or should I keep them all or send all of them away, just mad… Mother is still very bonded with the kittens… And the father also seemed bonded with them… Unless he only cared about my warm room… It feels very very hard to separate them but it is very very hard to continue supporting them all without any help and the inability to even find a free cat sitter for couple weeks.