Or a three-legged friend…or a two-legged friend…or a feathered winged friend…or a scaly friend etc.!

It can’t have escaped anyone’s notice that Valentine’s Day is almost upon us. Popular the world over (especially with card manufacturers and florists!), the 14th of February has come to symbolise the expression of romantic love. First associated with an early Christian Saint Valentinus of Rome, who is believed to have been imprisoned for carrying out wedding ceremonies for soldiers forbidden to marry, it was not until medieval times that Valentine’s Day really became popular.

Recent years have seen the increasing availability of cards for pets, no surprise given that most of us with pets in our lives will happily admit to being head-over-heels in love with them! The love we get from our pets is unconditional – a truly special thing in our modern, and often impersonal, world. They ask nothing from us and yet we’re happy to give so much – space on the best sofa, a favourite jumper to sleep with, and most precious of all, our time.

And whilst we don’t have to spend money to show someone that we care, because we also know that sometimes we all like to give a token of our love as a gift, here are our favourite treats for the one you love this Valentine’s Day, each costing just a few pounds:

• Chocolate always goes down well, but don’t be tempted to share your own, it is toxic to pets. Instead, why not try this inexpensive treat
• Give your heart away to your small animal friends, with these tasty treats
• Perfumes and smellies are another popular choice for the lady in your life – your feline friend will love you forever if you treat her to these
• Or how about a stylish accessory to brighten up the cold February days?
• And then there’s perhaps the ultimate Valentine’s gift, a ring

However you are celebrating, and who ever you are spending it with, we wish you and your loved ones a very happy Valentine’s Day!

Until next time,
With very best wishes from Shailen and The Ralph Site team

As pet lovers, we know just how special our four-legged friends are, and have each felt first hand the joy they bring. Of course, some special dogs and cats don’t just enrich their carers’ lives, they quite literally make them worth living, and so this week we’re celebrating the fantastic work done by these amazing animals.

Dogs for the Disabled

Established in 1986, the charity trains and supports assistance dogs for physically disabled adults and children. A more recent development is the PAWS scheme, helping children with autism flourish with the love and companionship of a well-trained family pet.

Hounds for Heroes

This brilliant organisation provides specially trained assistance dogs to injured and disabled men and women of both the UK Armed Forces and Emergency Services. The dogs not only boost their owner’s quality of life by opening doors, picking up items, getting money from ATMs, and so on, but they also supply invaluable companionship and love.

Canine Partners

Between 60 and 70 dogs are placed by the charity every year, each one costing £20,000 to train and support through his or her working life. The training process takes around eighteen months and dogs then remain with their human for as long as both still benefit from the partnership.

TheraPaws from The Mayhew

This wonderful service provided by The Mayhew Animal Home sees volunteers taking animals into care homes, so that elderly residents can enjoy the companionship of a dog or kitten. Touch is one of the last senses to be affected for those suffering with Alzheimer’s and such interactions can therefore be very therapeutic – visits have been shown to reduce depression and lessen the social withdrawal that is often associated with the disease.

(Full disclosure: I am a trustee for The Mayhew!)

Pets as Therapy

There are currently 4,500 active PAT (Pets As Therapy) Dogs, and a smaller number of PAT Cats working throughout the UK. The animals visit hospitals, hospices, nursing and care homes and special needs schools, where they play a key role in the charity’s Read2Dogs programme, boosting literacy and confidence. The ‘Stroke and PAT’ project works with patients recovering from strokes, helping with therapy and rehabilitation.

Each of these wonderful organisations is funded by charitable donations, and any or all of them would be grateful for any help you might be able to give. Donating a sum (no matter how small), or setting up a regular contribution, can be a lovely way to make a real difference to someone’s life, whilst honouring the memory of a much-loved family pet.

Until next time,
With very best wishes from Shailen and The Ralph Site team

Friends of The Ralph Site will not be surprised to find that one of the most popular sections of our website is our Memorials page. Hundreds of bereaved carers have already uploaded photos and memories of their special friends – they find that placing a permanent visual record of their pet online can be very comforting.

Some people find that it helps to share stories of the unique personalities of their own much-loved pets, whilst others take some small comfort from reading about other pets who have crossed the Rainbow Bridge. When the time comes, if you want to share your own feelings on The Ralph Site, it’s very easy to add a memorial. You can find more details HERE. Please note that unfortunately at the moment memorials can only be created using a desktop or laptop computer, not with a mobile phone or most tablet devices; we apologise for any inconvenience.

Every day we share memorials (that meet certain criteria) from the website to our busy Facebook page on the anniversary of the pet’s passing. Our many Facebook friends tell us that they value this shared community space, where pet carers can share their feelings and offer advice to anyone feeling angry, sad or frustrated in their loss. Others often add poignant and sensitive posts and comments, which help carers understand that they are not alone in their grief.

Ultimately that is what we are most proud of at The Ralph Site – the shared sense of community created by people from all walks of life, united by a common thread. We have each experienced the pain of losing a much-loved friend and we aim to support anyone going through, or preparing for, the loss of a pet through our work. Commission earned on sales through The Ralph Site shop provides a proportion of the funds required to maintain and expand our work, and so we are always very grateful for any support you can give.

With very best wishes from Shailen and The Ralph Site team

Sadly, if there’s one thing we know to expect each January (apart from the faulty bathroom scales!), it’s that pet rescue centres and animal charities will see an influx of rehoming requests. Despite the annual pleas to the contrary, some people still buy dogs and cats as Christmas presents without preparing properly for all the adjustments required to the household, and without understanding that new pets require time, love, effort and patience in order to settle.

One West Yorkshire animal shelter received their first call on Boxing Day, concerning a Cairn terrier bought on a whim for £700 on Christmas Eve. Shocking. The centre’s owner reports that she usually takes around 40 calls a day asking for her to admit dogs, but in the run up to Christmas, and throughout January, this rises to a staggering 70 calls a day.

In South Lincolnshire, the Jerry Green rescue centre reports a recent trend towards older animals being dumped, possibly they have been replaced with younger pets for Christmas and the owners do not want the responsibility of increased medical bills that can accompany these loyal older animals.

And in Northern Ireland, the same sad picture can be found. It is not uncommon for centres to be operating waiting lists as they are at capacity after a post-Christmas surge in admissions. The Grove Hill Animal Trust are asking owners thinking about giving up their pet to consider other options, such as enlisting the help of a dog sitter or walker, or speaking with their vet for behavioural advice.

It’s heart breaking to witness the same sad stories playing out over and over again unnecessarily. Of course there will always be occasions where rehoming a much-loved pet is the kindest thing – when the owner becomes too ill or infirm to attend to its needs for example. If you find yourself in this position, there are lots of places where you can find further help and advice including from the Blue Cross, and judgments will not be made when pets are rehomed responsibly.

Of course you may be in a position to offer a loving home to an abandoned animal, in which case a quick online search will share lots of local options. Good luck!

With very best wishes from Shailen and The Ralph Site team

After the excesses of the past few weeks, and now that we’re back into the normal routine again, many of us may be starting to think about making positive changes to our lifestyles. Eating better, doing more exercise and taking good care of our mental as well as our physical well-being may well be on the agenda, at least for now!

So before the momentum fades and the cold, dark days overwhelm our good intentions of going outside and taking a brisk walk, we thought it would be a good idea to collect together some recommendations for products available in our shop to help you and your pets get happy and healthy together. And if your latest Visa bill has extended onto an extra page, you’ll be pleased to see that they all cost around £10!

• Want your pet to get out more, even if you don’t? Why not fit a cat flap (this one is suitable for small dogs too!)
• Need to do the right thing on your walks but don’t want to get too involved? Try this sturdy but discreet scoop.
• Would you like your cat to accompany you on a gentle stroll to the park? Or the corner shop? Try this soft cat harness.
• Looking for a convenient but healthy treat for your dog (or something to vary your small animal’s diet?)
• Or do you just need some inspiration to start your exercise regime? How about Yoga Dogs – Get in Touch with Your Inner Pup

In our online shop you’ll also find a massive selection of leads, collars, harnesses and toys to make every walk safer, fun and perhaps even a little bit more stylish, so do have a browse. We’re adding new lines and refining the product range in The Ralph Site shop all the time, and we love to hear your suggestions and feedback. Leaving product reviews helps other owners with their choices, so if you can find the time to review your purchases too, we’d be very grateful.

With very best wishes from Shailen and The Ralph Site team