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Oh my goodness, you were juggling so many things, terrible accidents can happen, I hope you’re able to forgive yourself, you’re obviously an incredible loving person!

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Pet loss and self-forgiveness
What a horrible accident! You are obviously both incredibly loving, thoughtful, and careful pet parents, but sometimes crazy accidents can happen in the blink of an eye. I hope you will be able to forgive yourselves because this sounds like a freak accident, not your fault!


Pet loss and self-forgiveness
I am so, so sorry that this horrible tragedy happened. I agree with the vets, I don’t think that you had anything to do with this. Sometimes little dogs can just have an irregular heartbeat that can happen at any time and that can happen from excitement or anything… And they can just suddenly die. I think you just happens to be there when this happened, and it was just a bad coincident that her head was bumped just before that. I know you’re not going to believe that because you’re feeling so guilty but these kinds of things absolutely do happen. You’re obviously an incredibly loving person, and I understand being afraid of ever wanting to take care of another dog, but perhaps you can volunteer at a shelter because you have a lot of love to give!


Pet loss and self-forgiveness
I am so sorry for your losses! Please forgive yourself, give those beautiful puppies a wonderful life! The last pup would’ve been very lonely as an only dog after being in a large pack, he/she was spared that, and you do have to be able to have enough money to take care of yourself, if you had not made that decision you would not have been able to take care of yourself or the last dog anyway! i’m so sorry that you were in that position, that is so painful. I wonder if some point you will be able to spend some time maybe volunteering at a local shelter? I wish you peace and good memories.


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